Wednesday, February 22, 2017

THE SECRET TO HAPPINESS



 top || pants || shoes || jacket || c/o choker || c/o liquid lipstick in Fawn

Isn't it funny how almost overnight, your whole life can change? If you've been following along for a while, you've read vaguely about some struggles we've had the past two years. Life just didn't seem to be going our way. But recently I've been practicing this mindset of not worrying about things that I have no control over. I can tend to be a control freak/over-planner/worry-wart, so when things would go wrong, you can only imagine how high my stress levels would get. I literally worried so much last year that towards the end of the year, I caused myself to have TMJ which is kind of like lockjaw and I could hardly open my mouth to eat or talk. It was pretty scary and often times, stress-induced. WHICH IS ALSO THE DUMBEST. I was physically, mentally, and emotionally hurting myself because of my crazy stress levels and bad anxiety.

I was the cause of it. Nobody else. (I know for some people this is not the case, but for me it was.)

My stress and anxiety were also putting me into a state of sadness, which is something I haven't had to deal with personally before. I've always been the happy-go-lucky kind of gal, but you guys. I was in a weird place. And weird places can make you feel things you've never really felt.

So at the start of the year, I knew I needed to make a serious lifestyle change. The unhappiness was all-consuming and indescribable all at the same time. I made the decision to stop. Stop the unhappiness from seeping into every pore. Stop the worrying of every little thing. Stop the comparisons.  For me, it was all about the mindset and staying mindful. Don't get me wrong, this is definitely not as easy to do as it is to say. There are still days where I feel a little less hopeful and a little more darkness, but overall, everything's been coming up roses. I've truly seem a night and day difference.

I know some people who experience sadness and anxiety aren't as easily cured, but making a conscience effort to change any situation is always the first step.

If anyone else would like to share their secrets to happiness, I'd love to hear them in the comments! xoxo

P.S. Sorry if this was too heavy of a blog post for anyone. I've been trying to write more purposeful posts here, and this topic has been on my mind tons lately and if I can speak to even one person through this post, then it's worth it to me!

P.P.S. If anyone out there ever wants to talk and doesn't know who to turn to, you can always email me. I promise I always respond. :)

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17 comments:

  1. Well said, sweet lady! Anxiety, stress and depression can be all consuming. So glad you're able to change your perspective and find more happiness!

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    1. me too!! just happy to be on the road to my old self. thanks for always being so sweet to me. :)

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  2. Not too heavy in the slightest! I truly appreciate heart to heart posts. I'm sure you have other readers that love it too, we feel a connection to you through our experiences. I really appreciate your honesty in this post, because I have been struggling too and it's reassuring to talk to someone about it. Even just listening to you helps, so thank you!
    XO-L
    http://agirlnamedlatisha.blogspot.com

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    1. very true!!! i think it's just that fact that i'm more of a private person when it comes to deep, personal stuff so i was super scared to share this! but i'm glad i have amazing readers like you who are gentle with me and are always so good to me. if you ever need to talk, i'd love to be that ear for you! xoxo

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  3. Love you Jess! I'm so sorry for the sadness you felt but so proud of you for how you're handling it! And that you're sharing so hopefully others won't feel alone in the struggle! We all struggle in different ways so it's refreshing when people are honest about it because if someone seems perfect and totally put together... they're just better at hiding not hahaha You're amazing and so beautiful! Inside and out! Now just come visit me already!!! Haha

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    1. oh my dear friend. you put this so perfectly. likeeeee we're definitely not all perfect and put together! (i'm in gym clothes and no makeup most days haha) but i just love you so. we're coming soon!!! ;)

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  4. I love this post! I've been in the position of needing to make some changes, recently, for health reasons. So I can totally relate! I'm so happy things are looking up for you and that you've been working on being mindfully active.

    Also, this outfit is a stunner! I want every single piece!

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    1. aww thanks girl! i think it's so important to act on it as soon as you realize it's an issue, and not just let it fester and deepen and deepen until you feel like it's just a normalcy. glad we're both making the changes we need to make! xoxo

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  5. Thanks for sharing, I often worry to much too. I have to learn to be okay with things that are not in my control. Happy it is better for you!

    xo,
    KRIS
    withlovefromkris.com

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    1. i think women have a tendency to worry more in general and we need a strong support system to talk us off the cliff sometimes. thanks for your comment kris! :)

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  6. LOVE your honesty about all of this!! You are seriously inspiring. Also, I almost bought that top a few weeks ago & now I wish I would have! It looks super cute on you!

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  7. Your hair is perfect, and I love those pants!

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  8. One, I want to live near you because you ROCK, we would be best friends, and it's warm, AND i would steal from your closet. Two, I think you are on the right path with changing your mindset! As someone that has anxiety, I understand! My biggest way to trick myself to not feeling the anxiety creep in is creating lists. I love checking things off! I also know that if something is big, I will procrastinate it because it seems too hard to achieve. In order to not let it get that way, I immediately get it done so that there are no excuses!

    xo, Lauryn
    Lauryncakes

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  9. This post is right on. I am anxiety sufferer. You're advice it great and reminds of some great post by one of my favorite life and business people, Danielle Laporte. Great reads if you ever need a quick boost in mindfulness.

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  10. I'm loving your floral pants, and loving this post. I def worry to much, and need to get control of it. It's always motivating to hear how people can overcome struggles in their life, and find a place of happiness.
    Rachael
    www.threadsforthomasblog.com

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  11. Good for you, I'm glad to hear that you've decided to make this change and stop worrying over every little thing. I totally agree that it's easier said than done, but you're making the effort which is great.
    Hugs and kisses for you,

    Victoria

    http://fashionstylebeautyandmore.blogspot.ca/

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  12. hey nice post dear
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