Thursday, August 18, 2016

HOW TO WIN AT ADULTING



 jean jacket || c/o watch || c/o neck scarf* || c/o choker || c/o pineapple pin* || c/o geometric pin || c/o jeans || white tee || belt || similar bag || heels

*The neck scarf and pineapple pin are both from the July Popsugar #MustHaveBox that was sent to me to try out. I lovelovelove these boxes. You can get your own HERE! Use the code SHOP5 to get $5.00 off your first box.

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Adulting is hard.

With every stage of my life comes pockets of difficulties, and my mid-20's have been no exception. Don't get me wrong, I have SO much to be thankful for. Life could be far worse. But I am an advocate for being fully aware of your own life. We shouldn't discredit our trials or worries because "they could be worse." We shouldn't feel like we need to brush our troubles under a rug and pretend like they aren't there. In this moment, life may feel completely overwhelming and it's ok to feel those emotions of sadness and discouragement, as long as we get past them. So, I'm about to get super real here. I tend to keep this space of mine super positive and share only the uplifting parts of my life, but sometimes I just want to tell you guys what is really going on with me.

Recently, I feel like I've lost a sense of direction and purpose. Moving to a new state without friends and family has really taken a toll on me. We went from a super fulfilling lifestyle, to a one filled with loneliness, uncertainty, and disappointment. And while my husband, pup and I have lived in Arizona for well over a year now, we truly haven't found our rhythm here. We're constantly in a state of limbo, just waiting for this period of life to pass. We honestly can't wait to move out of Arizona. A huge part of our distaste for Arizona (aside from the 120 degree weather) can be attributed to the relentless outpouring of trials here. I won't go into too much detail here because these things are personal and don't only involve me.

I'm not telling you all of this to have a pity party, or a woe-is-me moment. I just know that I can't possibly be the only person out there feeling this way about life right now, and I don't want you to feel alone. It's easy for me to dwell on the negative aspects of my life, especially when they seem so overbearing. But in the past few weeks, I've been taking special note of any negativity around me and pleading with it to get the heck away from me. Here's a list of things that have been helping me to stay positive when life feels too heavy:

+exercise: I've been doing barre classes almost daily for the past three months now. I've always been one to hate working out, especially any form of cardio, but I have finally found a workout that I am OBSESSED with. There are so many benefits attached to working out, but I think the most beneficial one for me is how much of stress reliever it is.

+clean eating: I used to work for a company that focuses on spreading awareness about healthy eating and healthy living. Since then, I don't look at food the same way. Yes, I still love all things fried but I am actually educated on what is good for my body, and what isn't. Clean eating helps exponentially with my mood because I have the energy to have more productive days. Plus, when my body looks better, I feel better. We all know how depressing it can be to look in the mirror and feel disgusted with ourselves. Clean eating can help eliminate that.

+budgeting: It's no secret that finances, or the lack there of, can be a massive stressor. I check my bank account daily, and hope that you do too because hi, this is adulting. Being financially responsible is huge for me, and that's one of the main reasons why I still don't have a baby. haha Create a budget, and stick to it. No amount of going out to dinner, or shopping for new makeup is worth being stressed out of your mind about how you'll pay next month's rent.

+reading: Surrounding yourself with positivity is obviously a must when you're going through hard times, and that includes your reading material. I've also heard that podcasts can be super helpful too but I haven't gotten into them yet. Something that has always helped me, is clinging to my faith. It is such a blessing that my church frequently puts out articles and talks that are truly uplifting and just plain good. This talk speaks to my mind and my heart. Give it a read if you have a few spare minutes.

In the words of Jeffrey R. Holland from the talk linked above, "Dont give up... Don't you quit. You keep walking. You keep trying. There is help and happiness ahead -- a lot of it -- 30 years of it now, and still counting. You keep your chin up. It will be all right in the end."

Love you all. Thanks for letting me ramble a little bit today. xoxo




6 comments:

  1. Great post. :)
    Enjoy your weekend!
    Xoxo, Victoria

    https://fashionstylebeautyandmore.blogspot.ca/

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  2. I totally understand what that feels like. When we left Chicago and moved to Dallas I just couldn't understand it and felt totally aimless. Im sorry AZ is taking it out of you. I can totally relate to exercise and clean eating being a huge proponent of my happiness. I used to think that stuff was just to be skinny, but it is really more about mental stability than anything else. Thank you for sharing. You are cool and I hope things are going to look up soon.

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    1. yes! ok it's kind of the worst feeling? i've never experienced this before because my whole life i've been such a planner/list-maker and map out pretty much every step of my life so it just is totally taking me off guard! i'm sorry you went through something similar before. i really don't wish it on anyone. wish you lived close by so we could be bffs and eat healthy things and exercise together!

      p.s. you are cooler. xoxo

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